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Purely as a form of expression to the emotions that run riot in my life at different junctures. This blog has seen several title revisions that also reflect the state of being and evolution I am constantly in. If one were to remain stagnant in hope of never changing their temporal present, one will awaken someday to much regret. Life is about living, evolving and adapting to the constant changes all around us.

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3 June 2009

Rape Blame Game ... Jun 03, 2009

Refer Indian Male Libido Going Haywire and the consequent comments.

This argument inevitably rears its ugly head whenever the topic of rape is raised.

And inevitably, the blame game beings and women are saddled with the blame for their provocative dressing that then led to their rape - hence it surely is the woman's fault.

Then rightly so we ladies will point out that children (unless being in a diaper is considered provocative), grandmothers (this is taking the MILF fascination a bit too far perhaps) and that Muslim countries with burkha clad women also record unbelievable numbers of rape cases.

And all will point and say - woman she is the catalyst to her own terror.

So the boys that are raped by the sick people of the world and yes this is also a growing statistic - can we now then say these boys were provocatively dressed thus calling upon themselves untoward attention leading to rape?

Rape is not confined to girls, it is happening to boys as well.

The pertinent point then is what is the source of all this sexual aggression towards someone who is weaker? Perhaps in addressing that issue, this heinous crime may also be addressed.

I find it is our own contribution by making the subject of sex and sexuality taboo, hence the education of sexuality and sex is unclear. this giving opportunity of interpretation rightly or wrongly so.

It seems we rather skirt around the issues of sexuality and sex education ... educating both men and women on their personal space, their sexuality, and their right to keeping their bodies and themselves away from harm.

I have myself often heard from the mouths of men I held in some level of regard when dealing with a opinionated woman such horrid things like this line which immediately drops them from grace in my eyes. How can you ever condone someone who finds himself out done by a woman's smarts to say that 'she should be gang raped to teach her a lesson'

WTF kinda reasoning or logic is that? You cannot beat her at the game use your dick and so called collective male strength to then break her??? I feel so disgusted by such comments I usually cease my association with that person, unless unavoidable and then I stick to civil courtesies. I feel also compelled to call and raise and alarm bell that we have a potential rapist on the loose.

If he has said it, it means he has THOUGHT about it. The next step is merely a thin line between being human being with logic and rational or one without who can cross that thin line with whatever is deemed right of action for this person.

Perhaps there is no real explanation why people rape. Studies make hypothesises but has that stopped any of this crimes? NO only it rises with each passing moment. The statistics are scary. My hometown Seremban apparently records the highest rape almost on a daily basis - SHITS!!! I live there and I have daughters - how safe are we then?????

Even bloody Erectile Dysfunction sufferers have been known to sodomise their victims - this is also a form of rape ... so what if he used a cucumber or brinjal instead of his penis - someone was still violated most violently!!!!!

There is absolutely nothing to be reaped from hurling blame from one person to the other and especially not on the victim however much 'she had it coming to her' - another WTF type statement in my books - who in their right minds has it coming to be raped???

My take on this - stop with all the fucking blame game and get down to addressing the issue itself without gender, historical bias. Until our children boys and girls, sisters, mothers, wives, aunts, grandmothers girlfriends are safe, there is no use blaming anyone. Support the victim through this harrowing experience (trust me it never leaves you!!!) and get to the crux of the problem.

Apologies, but it sickens me all this blaming here there and no concrete actions taken to help the victims or to address rapists. Why must the victim continue to be victimised - haven't they been hurt enough???




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